Teen age – a phase of life, where kids feel they are always right, and parents think that the kids are wrong.. This is an age where there are going to be maximum tiffs between the child and the parent, if the trust and bond between the two is not solid enough. Do you also want that to happen? Do you want your kids to fight with you and blame you for all the wrong things? Obviously not!
You live with them, you work with them, and you talk to them – parents are an integral part of every child’s life. You know your kids love you the most and they will never disrespect you and your kids also know that you love them utmost and will never do anything bad for them. **I pray this bond goes on forever**..But teen age is that phase of life, for your kids where they meet new people every day, and there can be lot of influence on their tender minds… That is why, it is very important that you build a rock solid relationship with your teen, so that you know that your kids will always choose the right path, and when in doubt, they will confide into you…
Ways To Build A Rock Solid Relationship With Your Teen
Ditch all old ways of raising kids
You have to agree to the fact that times have been changing, and with that even parenting styles have to change. Gone are those days when parent’s word used to be the final one, without any say of the kid. These days, kids also look out for a relationship where their opinions are taken into consideration.
Listen to them
When I say listen, I mean to emphasize that you MUST listen and acknowledge it. Like, just listening for the heck of it, and not even remembering a word after a day, would not serve the purpose. In order to build a rock solid relationship with your teen, it is important that you listen, even if you don’t have anything to speak, lend them an ear.
Share your stories
I am sure you have lot of childhood memories of yourself. Why not share it with your kids in a good way and converse with them through it. Your kids will know you better in this way, and they will believe that, when you can share everything with them, so can they do it!
Play along with them in their interests
Your daughter likes to dance, why not dance with her.. Your son like to play football, why not try it out with him? This way, you are ensuring that you are spending more time with your teen and doing the things THEY like. Also, you are encouraging your kid to pursue his/her own interest, which surely helps to increase the bonding between the two of you.
Let them fight their own battles
School pressure, a tiff with their BFF or just a bad day at school, let your kid figure out solutions to their own problems. But, keep a close watch to this. While you are allowing them to fight their own battle, indirectly guide them to the right decision. This way, you will know that they are not taking the wrong decisions and the teens will also have an assurance that you have got their backs!
Comparing your kids with that of other, or for a matter of fact, own siblings, is the worst you can do. Every kid is different and so are their personalities. You must learn to take them as they are, and mold them in their own styles. To build rock solid relationship with your teen, you HAVE to STOP comparing.
Set the boundaries right
While you give them all the freedom you can, it is important to set certain boundaries as well! Like for instance, they CANNOT drink before they attain a legal age, and that remains a strict NO.
These are just few ways to build a rock solid relationship with your teen. You can customizes it in your own way, talk to your kid as to what they want. Always give them the confidence that you are there for them, come what may!